First of all, hey Dad! Cover your eyes! I’m sorry for burning your retinas;) Also, mom, brother and anyone who may know me as say, a student, or babysitter, or anything else. Avert. Your. Eyes.
Side note: Isn’t it funny sometimes to just write about what interests you, and then you remember that your family READS IT and knows that you probably wear cute things to bed. How on EARTH do romance writers look their parents in the eye?
I think I’ve mentioned this before, but this October my husband and I will be married ten years. We have two kids and busy lives and it is so, so easy to just throw on an XL vee neck tee and soft cotton pants on and jump into bed night each night. They’re so comfortable, right? I LOVE soft cotton anything. I’m pretty much beyond sleeping in anything itchy or too revealing because sometimes when little ones have bad dreams in the middle of the night they DO NOT see too much of mommy, you know?
Which brings me to a proposition I have for you.
Say you have this really cool and SOFT sleep tank, with a little bit of padding and adjustable straps. You pair it with easy, fold over yoga shorts and wear that to bed one night. Smudge a little black eyeliner on your lower lashes, muss up your hair and maybe even spritz a little perfume on. Hop on in under the covers and….ha, I’m NOT going there.
Where I AM going is this, sometimes it takes one spouse to sort of get out of the rut of comfortableness. Wear something cute to bed, something you might have worn back in the old days before kids and pets and all the nonsense of REAL LIFE. Rub his back even though you are dead tired, watch TV together in bed and snuggle up. I think the real point is that by making an effort to wear something a little sexier to bed it makes a little switch turn on YOUR mind.
I’ve written about marriage a couple of times before, but the biggest thing that works for me is to create a cycle of helping each other. Find one thing that will make HIS day easier and do it. Make his favorite dinner, take the trash out so he doesn’t have to, buy that treat he likes, do ANYTHING that you know will make him happy. After awhile he will start doing these little courtesies for you, the little extras that make YOUR day better. I think this translates into the romance department as well. It’s EASIER to not shower, to wear raggedy pajamas and not make the effort. I get it. I do it, too. When kids come into the picture they sort of suck up all the oxygen around you and you have to make the time to yourselves again. These moments aren’t always the grander ones from the earlier days, but they are in the small details that show that you CARE. A thoughtfully written Valentine’s card, an extra squeeze when they come in the door at night, a smile in a crowded room that shares an unspoken joke. Marriage and relationships don’t have yo go stale as the years go by, but you DO have to work at it.
And sometimes it takes a lacy little camisole, cute little boy shorts, or something that feels like you and has a little sex appeal thrown in, too;)
Now for some fun.
Les Lunes is giving away the tank and yoga shorts I’m wearing above in your choice of color to one lucky reader! You would love the feel of this set, so soft and cool to the touch. They are beautifully constructed pieces, made for real women with real bodies (they even have cute maternity stuff, I KNOW that’s tough to find.) These are pieces that you will find you turn to time after time, either in bed, lounging around, or under clothes.
This giveaway will run for a week and I will contact the winner after it is randomly picked. Good luck, friends!
This post is sponsored by Les Lunes! Thank you for supporting this wonderful company and for reading;)