Forever 21 cardigan and sunglasses (similar); Target dress, old (similar), belt, and sandals, old (similar.)
For seventeen or so months I had the privilege of mothering my daughter as an only child. Her pregnancy and birth were a dream come true for me and just being able to call her mine was (and is) an honor. She was a mama’s girl and we bonded completely. After I had my son I can’t say I didn’t get to spend as much time with her, because babies don’t require that much actual attention other than the basics, but she was an independent little thing and was happy exploring and learning new things and didn’t seem to actually need me as much.
Soon she was in preschool a couple of days a week, and then I blinked and she went to Kindergarten. She goes five days a week ALL day and it has been an adjustment for me to be away and not get as much alone time with her as I would like. It gets complicated, dividing my attention between two children who always seem to need me at the same time, as well as life in general that flies by so fast that can hardly catch my breath sometimes. I find myself getting a lot of alone time with my son. We do so many fun things together, just the two of us during the week while Molly is in school, and I cherish it. He has always been my sidekick, happy to sit on my lap and be thisclose to me at all times.
In comparison, Molly rarely sits still and loves to explore and move around and is so full of life she rarely stops for anything (except perhaps extra hugs and kisses at bedtime to prolong staying up, sneaky thing!) I love her ability to get right in there and be outgoing and be able to flourish in any situation. She is an amazing six year old and each year I keep saying that it is the BEST age. Watching her grow up and become a little lady is an honor.
That being said, I realized lately that I don’t get any alone time with her. We do a TON of joint family activities, but as far as time with just my girl and I? Let’s just say it’s been lacking. Last week I brought up the idea to her that we needed a “lady date”, something that just the two of us could do. She jumped up and down and shouted “YES!” and her whole face lit up (I live for these reactions, in case you were wondering;)) We decided to go to Ulta, because she wanted some clear sparkly lip glosses and likes to try on ALL the makeup there. She is a girly girl like me, so having fun with (age appropriate, at home only) makeup is a blast. She ends up looking sort of like a geisha when we leave Ulta, the face powder gets us every time, but we got a bag of goodies for her and she loved it. She also wanted to get a Happy Meal and McFlurry from McDonald’s (don’t judge me!), and we did that too.
We made plans to do more lady dates in the future, as well. I want to bring her to the movies, go out for a fancy lunch, shop with her at Target, and all the other things that I’ve dreamed of doing with my little girl since before I was ever even pregnant.
This girl, she is my life and my heart and being able to spend time with her, one on one, is the BEST. I’m so happy I get to be her mama, my heart could just burst with the joy of it.
Tell me, do you struggle with being able to spend time with your kids one on one?
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