Target jeans, boots and sweater, old (jean option, sweater option, boots option); Logo layering tank (the BEST!); Ray ban sunglasses (a belated birthday gift to myself;)
One of the biggest things I struggle with in my life is indecision. I will think and rethink everything a thousand times, often not feeling the happiness I should because I have doubts or I wonder if what I DID decide is the right thing. I do this while shopping, figuring out how to parent my children, what dinner place to go to, absolutely all the things in life you can think of. It stinks.
Like the sunglasses you see above. I have wanted them for the past four months! They have been a trend out everywhere this summer, and this is why I struggled with actually needing the real thing. When in doubt, I almost always buy the cheaper version of something and never look back. I have gone back and forth, buying the inexpensive Forever 21 version of these to see if I really did love them (I did), and finally buying them this past week with income I earned myself through this blog. They were expensive and they are amazing, yet I feel guilty about spending the money on the “trend” version that I really do love, or if I should have been more practical and got regular aviators. In the end, I love these and I don’t regret them, but thinking about how I struggle with daily decisions got me thinking about the different strategies I use to make my decision less guilt ridden.
1) The biggest thing I do when struggling with a thought to decision to is go with my gut. It always leads me where I should be going, whether I want it to or not. If I am figuring out whether or not to sit on my couch and read, or play with my daughter, I think about which decision feels better. If the thing I really want to do (READ), makes me feel guilty, and playing with my daughter makes me feel good? The decision has been made.
I do this a lot shopping, too. I can find LOTS things that appeal to me, always, yet I sit and look at what is in my cart and figure out what I would be really upset to leave at the store. Most of the time I will put all but 1-2 things back and then I feel good about what I have purchased (and spent less money!)
2) I curb my impulsive nature and sleep on it, often for months. Being a style blogger means I constantly read amazing content and see clothes and products that I need RIGHT NOW. Advertising through blogging DOES work, because I have done/bought it all;) Now I try to wait, a day or week, (or more!), to see if I really want what I am seeing or is it just the feeling I get from acquiring new things. This takes the indecision I feel when wanting to buy something but not knowing if I SHOULD by making me take it off the table. I take shopping hiatus’ for this reason, it takes the thought out of buying, a stress in my life that is completely self induced, and that feels good.
3) I like to talk over my thoughts, a lot. If you are a close friend of mine you MIGHT know this;) I agonize over the littlest details in life (should I renew my vows, buy my daughter Ugg’s, eat low carb?), and talking it over helps me. Often I just need that other set of ears to listen, a sounding board of experience that I can bounce ideas off of. I most often KNOW what I want to do, but organizing my thoughts and either saying it out loud, (or writing it in a blog post!), shows me what I really want.
Tell me, are you indecisive? How do you make daily decisions?
P.S. Shop some of my FAVE Fall accessories!