A couple of weeks ago I overheard a conversation about what makes a relationship worth it, and it made me THINK. (Seriously, being nosy pays off…;)
“Does he make you want to be a better person?”
This statement could really translate into many different areas of your life, whether you are dating, married, or with friendships, in my opinion. It doesn’t make sense to be with ANYONE if they don’t push you to be a better person, right?
When I think of my husband and our relationship over the past 15 years I notice a trend: he makes me want to be the best ME I can be. I love that he knows exactly who I am, the real me that doesn’t always get seen in all its parts to the world, but can’t be hidden from him. He’s the first to call me out if I start acting off, he pushes me to reach my dreams even if they sound crazy, and he knows what makes me tick. The thought of disappointing him makes me cringe, but not in the way it sounds. It’s just that he knows what I am capable of and will nudge me along of I fall from that course. He makes me want to be a great wife to him, an awesome mother to our children, and a person that I can be proud of deep inside my soul. I care about what he thinks, yet he knows that I am my own person and lets me live in a way that makes me happy. Even if that means he takes photos for me for Instagram, and hands out business cards at work for my blog, or supports the dreams and crazy schemes I come up with
I’d like to think I do the same for him, too. After awhile you start to realize that the person you are with deserves to be their own person, too, and not someone you can change. I let him do the things he enjoys, and we build a life based on our own strengths and weaknesses. I’m a morning person, so I get up early with the kids, and he is a better cook that I am (and cleans up, too!) We know each other inside and out, and often we end up being brutally honest with each other. Sometimes all we need to do is give a little side eye to the other one and we both get it. It’s funny how over time you really DO end up knowing what the other is thinking at any given moment, and how you end up just knowing what the other needs without saying a word. It’s comfortable and easy and awesome to have this, and I hope my children find it someday, too.
My relationship makes me want to be a better person because he believes in me, he trusts me to be exactly who I need to be, and he has my back, always. I couldn’t be more proud to call him mine.
Tell me, does your relationship push you to be a better person?