1) Be independent.
When I think of my mom, I think of independence and competence. She is no wilting flower, let me tell you. I have seen her do a million things on her own, and she never complains. We would do awesome camping trips as a kid, just my brother and her and I, and they were amazing. I look back and wonder how she did it all, honestly. She seems, in my memories, to always have been able to do anything. There is never an excuse of too tired, too old, too young, or too sick. She’s a ‘suck it up, buttercup’ kind of lady, and now I am the same way.
2) Going after your dreams.
When I was in middle school my mom went to nursing school and we both ended up graduating together my eighth grade year. I watched her study her butt off while holding down different jobs and parenting two kids. I’ve seen her run a restaurant, bar tend, drive a food truck, basically anything that would bring money in and pay the bills. She has lived in mobile homes, a camper in my grandparent’s back yard, and massive beach homes. She has had nothing, and enough, and has worked every second for it all. She is so goal oriented and isn’t afraid to work hard to do it, no matter how difficult it may be. She was, and is, a hard worker at her core, and has always showed me that no matter how hard life may get, we can never give up.
3) No whining.
My mother is not a whiner. She’s a nurse, so that means when I was growing up I couldn’t really be that sick, ever, because she could tell if I was bluffing. Basically, I would have to be bleeding out of the eyes to stay home. (I hated that, trust me!) She pushes through everything, all pain and suffering, and never stays down for long. Sometimes she SHOULD rest and relax a bit, but she doesn’t. She has taught me to keep going, keep your head up, and don’t let small things get you down.
Always growing up my mom was reading. No matter how hard she was working or what was going on, our life was filled with books and time to read. We began sharing books early on, and I think a lot of my reading habits, and my absolute love of reading, comes from her. She also has a great introspective sense of self, which translated into my love of learning about MYself, and reading books that teach me to be better. She and I are similar should when it comes to this, and I love that.
5) How to laugh.
When my mama and I are together, we can be pure crazy. We can laugh at the stupidest things, have crying fits over funny books or songs, and often have the best time together. I think when it comes to her and I, we can be passionately SO different from one another, but also so very much the same. I can be my essential and full self around her, and she loves me just the same. We take each other in with all the good, the bad, and the ugly. I can be my goofiest self around her, and she with me, and it always makes me smile.
Tell me, what has your mother taught YOU?