My style and how I’ve thought about it has changed a lot for me this year. I went from style blogging HARD for 5 years straight, constantly taking photos and trying to keep up with trends, to bringing that to a screeching halt when I decided I needed to figure out what I wanted to do with this blog and this space. So I took time off and barely did any photo shoots, and just wore what made me happy. I didn’t have to worry about repeating outfits and keeping things fresh and new, I just had to pay attention to what made me happy. It turns out, neutral colors and simple silhouettes make me really happy. Who knew?
I’m not sure if it is getting a little older and just knowing what makes me happy and what doesn’t, or figuring out that a lot of cheap clothes (mostly) don’t work for me any more, or if it is a combination of the two, but I have learned something.
While I love fashion and shopping and trends and getting dressed up, this doesn’t actually translate into my real life. I’m narrowing down what I REALLY wear and like and that has involved a lot of research on Pinterest (this board is my style completely), and this book has been my bible. It. Is. Amazing.
So how do you figure this out? The first step is to look at what you wear in a 2 week period of time, and the percentages of time (give or take) that you wear these items. Then look at your closet and see if it reflects that. For instance, Monday-Friday I wear my workout gear from approx. 9am-1pm. I then shower and put on something comfortable and work on shampoo business and blog stuff till I pick my kids up at 4pm. After that I am home again and stay comfortable. Saturday and Sunday we will go out to eat once or twice, so I’ll wear either faux leather leggings and a tunic sweater, or distressed skinny jeans and a tunic top with cute boots. In a pie chart it would look like 50% gym clothes, 35% comfortable clothes (leggings, cozy top, sneakers), and 15% of the time I am wearing my “nice” clothes. Now if you look in my closet, I have 70% “nice” clothes, 25% workout clothes, and 5% comfortable clothes. Obviously my closet doesn’t match up to my real life.
Here’s the deal: because my closet is mostly “nice” clothes I would feel guilty about not wearing them. Yet I felt weird getting dressed if I really wasn’t going anywhere besides the car rider line at school. I’ve always had a hang up about wearing my “home clothes” outside of the house. You know, those bleach stained yoga pants and that extra-large hoodie? I had ugly home clothes, so no wonder I got dressed for an hour just to not be seen in them. I upgraded a few items (one pair of leggings, a blushed colored fleece tunic), but I discovered I needed more casual clothes that were comfortable and that I didn’t feel like changing out of to leave the house.
Basically I needed less of what I wear less of, and more of what I wore more. It’s so silly and easy sounding now, I’m embarrassed I didn’t see it earlier.
So now I needed to do something about that. I’ve been steadily purging my closet for a couple of months now and my “nice” clothes have been paired down to what I really love. They are mostly black, gray, denim, white, with a touch of pale pink and mustard, and I have enough to make certain uniforms and looks that really speak to me. Basically take a tunic top + skinny jeans + cute boots + a faux fur jacket and that is my winter uniform. Or skinny jeans + cute band tee + cozy cardigan + cute boots. I have a couple of things I’d like to add, but I am good there for now. What I really needed to do was stock the underrepresented areas of my life. Which was casual clothes that are comfortable and that work for home and running errands.
This look involves leggings + an interesting top +neutral sneakers. It is actually a lot more sportier and casual than I ever thought myself to be, but it works for me! Turns out, I live a really casual lifestyle. My wardrobe should reflect that. The athleisure trend is something that fits in which how I live and I am okay with that. The important thing for me here is to not look sloppy. I still like a neutral palette, but I want it to look intentional and put together, not sloppy.
So this is where I am now. Adjusting my wardrobe to my real life, and taking it season by season. My summer life looks a lot different from my winter life, so what I wear changes (think switching the casual stuff for tons of beachwear!) It’s funny to think that I am not the “fancy” person I’ve always thought myself to be. My life is really casual, and when I work part-time at my kids’ school, my nice stuff works double duty. (For those of you that work, having a curated work wardrobe helps, especially if you can mix and match it with your weekend stuff.)
If you had told me 5 years ago I’d be wearing sneakers out of the house and not to the gym, I would have laughed at you. I also would have laughed if you told me I’d be at the gym 5 days a week, too. Things change, tastes change, people evolve. I just know that this works for me RIGHT NOW, at this point in my life.
Tell me, does your closet match the reality of your life?