I was huffing it out on the stairmaster today doing a HIIT workout and listening to a podcast when THIS question was asked at the end of it…(love me some Gary Vee!)
“What is your definition of a magnificent life?”
You guys, it nearly stopped me in my (disgustingly sweaty) tracks. It takes everything that you are doing now, and everything you WANT to say about your life, and puts it all in perspective. I pondered that for a bit and immediately knew that this question deserved some thought and a blog post. Writing here has always been therapy of sorts for me, and if something I write rings a bell with one reader I feel like this is all worth it. Helping YOU and being someone who contributes meaning to YOU is everything to me, both here and on social media.
On to the question! Here is what MY definition of a magnificent life would be.
- I’ve said this a million times, but one of my biggest goals was to become a mom. If I died today I would be thrilled to know that I have them and their birth was everything to me (though dying terrifies me as well, because I’m afraid they’d never know how much I love them…but that’s another post for another day.) Now that I am a mom and have been for nine years, my goal is to raise them to be happy and content and to live their best life. I don’t care the details of what they end up doing, I really don’t. They could be ANYTHING, as long as it is something that makes them happy and makes them feel like they are doing what they are meant to do. My happiness is linked to theirs. If they weren’t happy, I wouldn’t be either, it is as simple as that. So my job now is to support them and make sure they have good self esteem and to give them what they need emotionally to succeed in life.
- I’ve never been one that has had a set career path in mind. I change my mind often and my dreams change as I age. I DO know that I like owning my own time, and creating a career that is flexible and works for me. I’m still working on that, because I think it takes time to come up with what works and what doesn’t. Some career paths are good for a short period of time, but aren’t meant to be forever. I think jobs and opportunities exist to teach us something. I taught school and loved that, but don’t love it full-time. I love supporting children and helping them be happy, but I can’t do that full-time as an educator. I’m happiest surrounded by kids and just loving all over them. Perhaps that means I become a foster parent someday? Maybe I substitute teach and set my own hours and be there in that capacity? Or maybe I stay home and be there for my kids only and support their friends when I can? What it boils down to is that I want to be a positive influence for young kids in some way.
- Another work thought, I want a job that I am passionate to do every single day. I know this involves working for myself on my own terms. It just does. Right now my passion is fitness and style and writing and leading/supporting women, so continuing to grow my brand via social media and my blog is important to me, as it connecting with those that inspire me. I love that right now it is completely possible to live a life where writing a blog and posting on Insta stories can make you money. In forty years I want to be successful in my own terms, and that involves creating a career (or careers) that enable me to stay home and have that freedom, but still contribute to our bottom line. I want to help people, in some way, and be a role model. I want to leave a legacy that says I did this on my own terms, in my own way, and I was successful at it.
- I want to continue to be married to my best friend and live in a way that shows we have made it work, through the good times and the bad, till the end. I really love that being with him makes me a better person, he has taught me so much about myself that I believe comes from the fact that we have grown up together and experienced so much. I want to be buried side my side with him and just know that the life we built has been the most blessed life, no matter that happens.
- Lastly, I want to say that I had TIME to live a great life. TIME to vacation to all the places I wanted to go, TIME to go to every one of my kids’ soccer games, TIME to go to the gym as much as I want, TIME to rest when I want and work when I want, TIME to hustle and build my brand, and TIME to develop myself into the person I need to be to accomplish the other things on this list. Time is everything, and having the gift of time is all I need.
Tell me, what do YOUR definition of a magnificent life?