I’ve recently gone down a huge, winding rabbit hole, both in books and through podcasts. (Post coming on that, soon.) You know how something will pique your interests, so then it leads you to the next, and the next, and so on? I’m pretty sure I started with a Tony Robbins book, and now I’m reading all about the healing energy of crystals and about thisclose to heading to my nearest mystical shop.
Suffice it to say, there’s an internal shift going on in my soul, and I’ve done a ton of soul-searching to figure it out. And how do yoga pants fit in this equation? (When do they NOT? Lol.) Quick story: early last month my husband and I were flying back from Vegas and I declared to him, “You know what, I’m wearing a tee-shirt and yoga pants home today.” This is obviously not a huge thing for the majority of people, but for me, someone who dresses up almost always…this was weird.
Now my husband literally wants to give me a high-five, because he has heard me complain a zillion times about not being comfortable, or not dressing warmly enough, or basically just ignoring common sense for the sake of a cute look. I ended up wearing my yoga pants, I was supremely comfortable the entire trip home, and all was fine.
It all comes down to this. I’ve always been a super judgemental person. To myself most of all, and then to others. It’s not a great quality and it was almost always in my head. Judging and feeling like I was being judged. Scanning people’s outfits and judging, always needing to feel like I looked “perfect.” Keeping up with this thought pattern that because I was a judger, people must be judging me, so I had a high standard. And that’s okay if you want to dress nice all the time and it comes from a good place. But when the thought of wearing something really casual at the airport seems like a”bold” choice, that’s where some introspection needs to come in.
How did I help myself, then? And continue, because this stuff is ongoing?
My first step has been to add more positive inner thoughts patterns. I am working on never criticising myself. Ever. Any negative thought that pops up, about myself or others, I say “not useful!”, and I just send it some love. I compliment myself more. I’ve picked myself apart for 37 years, what if now I just celebrate who I am? I say in my head, “I approve of myself” about 100 times a day. At hard times I come up with a compliment. Funny thing, the second you make the decision to not say anything bad about yourself or others, you notice how much you did. It’s crazy.
The second step I have been working on is to not care what other people think. If I want to head out to the store and look like death warmed over after Crossfit? I go. If I want to wear a super dressy look because I’m really feeling it? I go for it. I basically just honor myself and my own choices, push away the thought of “perfection”, and just lean into who I am.
Since I have been doing these things I have felt a huge internal shift. I’ve been seeing signs everywhere for what I need to be doing next (exciting stuff!), I have seen improvement in my relationships with my husband and my kids, and I have newfound love and respect for others. It’s really awesome.
So yes! That is how, in a nutshell, wearing yoga pants and a tee shirt helped me. Ha! It goes a lot deeper than that, but man, it feels good to just BE in my own skin, and to be able to breathe some love into myself. If you try it, even just for one day, you’d see an immense change in yourself. I promise.