Happy July, my friends! Funny enough, because we live in the South and it has felt like Summer for months now (and we are about 5 weeks into Summer break,) July for us means that Summer is almost over. Insert sad face. School starts here in the beginning of August and that is still weird for me. But! We have been having so much fun, beaching it weekly and doing lots of fun activities. My kids are a great age right now and we are all really enjoying ourselves. Just don’t ask about how I dyed my hands green doing a tie dye project….
Anyway, I thought I’d switch up this monthly post with a different format. My fellow blogger (and online friend,) Jordyn wrote a self care diary that I loved reading, and I wanted to hop on that train. I have been reading Jordyn’s blog for years and have been loving her journey through law school as of late. Please go check her out!
Self care habits I am great at on a regular basis:
- For the past two years I have been waking up before my kids (and husband) and I do about 30-60 minutes of me time. I listen to a self help podcast usually, write my ten goals for ten years, and do a gratitude list. I commit to this at least 5 mornings a week and it always makes me happy to start the day like that.
- I work out, either at CrossFit or running about 3-4 times a week in the Summer, and about 4-5 times a week during the school year. Exercising for me is non negotiable and is a huge factor for my mental health!
- I have been really good about shutting down on social media after 5 or 6pm, I put it away when I am done for the day with my work, and keep it in my room on the charger. I also have limits set for all social media apps, they are limited from 6:30pm-6:30am and I don’t go on them during those times. It feels good to take breaks because when you do it for work it becomes all consuming and it feels bad mentally to always be “on.”
Self Care habits I am working on:
- I am working on doing at least 10 minutes a day of meditation (either on my own or with a YouTube video I listen to), but this is often the first thing that goes when life gets busy. Summertime is a bit harder to have the time to do this, but I’d like to do this at least 4-5 days a week. I get a lot of mental clarity when I do.
- I am trying to only check Facebook and email 3x/day, and I’d honestly like to do this less. These are both time wasters for me, and I waste a lot of time here when I am bored.
- The same goes for Instagram, which I use mainly for work. Instead of mindlessly scroling I am trying to only engage and comment when I scroll. Stories are harder, those are such a guilty pleasure (I love making them, too!), and I can lose a lot of time watching these each day when I could be more productive.
- I have been working very hard on my self talk and how I view myself. I get caught up in comparison, mostly with past versions of myself and feeling like I am “better” or “worse” than I was at other times in my life. This is a life long thing, and it became worse a couple of years ago when I basically had a fitness account for 2 years and judged my worth by my appearance (as most women do.) I am using positive affirmations, and daily thought work to realize that I am perfectly fine as I am and that I don’t have to control anything or be “perfect” to be loved.
Self care habits I have ditched:
- Right now I have been taking a break from purchasing and reading allllll the self care books (I think I’ve read them all lol), and just working on what I have learned and implementing that. I like to always find “the next thing,” yet the next thing always replaces what I thought was the next thing. Does that make sense? It’s like the ‘something shiny’ syndrome. Instead of looking for the next quick fix I am sitting with what I have learned and working from there.
Bad habits I can’t kick right now:
- I usually try to have just 2 coffees a day, typically one hot cup and one iced cold brew this time of year. But, iced coffee tastes so good when it is hot and I have been having another one more often. Which means I am not drinking water as much as I should.
- I’ve definitely been having more fun with food and wine this past month, and eating more than I typically do during the rest of the year. Maybe because it is summer break and we are out more, and maybe because it is just fun to loosen up a bit? This goes along with me working on not being as controlling, and knowing that it is okay to not be as strict all the time and to have a little bit of fun, and to trust that I know myself and won’t compromise my health with a glass of wine or a couple bites of fried pickles from an appetizer platter. I do know that nothing is permanent, and that worrying now about this stuff only wrecks the moment. Things will return to normal on a month or so with school starting, I’ll be back to my regimented self soon, and all is well.
That’s it! Tell me, how is your self care? What are you working on?