Christmas is over, the end of the decade is fast approaching, and I feel like after the last couple of week’s worth of craziness, NOW I can rest. Today we are lounging around and eating even more leftovers, and I hope to have my intention of PEACE this season really soak in through the New Year. I love setting intentions for different seasons and upcoming events, it helps me stay on track with how I want to FEEL!
Affirmations have always been the thing that works the best here…whenever I feel myself get worked up I take a couple of deep breaths and repeat my faves….
Everything is always working out for me. (A favorite! I say this in my head about 20 times a day.)
Doing more does not make me more. (A newer one for me, but one that reminds me that I don’t have to do ANYTHING to make myself more liked, feel better, be enough, etc.)
I love money and money loves me. (This is from a book I love that helps reset your money mindset! I am working on positive thoughts around money and not complaining about ‘not enough’ or aiding into conversations about it.
My presence is a gift. (A good one for when you don’t feel like you are doing enough. If you have lost a loved one, you know how simply one’s presence in life is all we need. The same is true for you.)
I have plenty of time. (I repeat this in the car when I get anxious about traffic and being late, and in moments when I panic about the holidays and not getting things done in time. It turns out, I have NEVER not gotten things done and I need to remember that!
Another small exercise I like to do in my early morning alone/journal time is to start this prompt….
I love myself, therefore…
Some examples…I move my body even if I don’t feel like it. I speak in affluent (positive, see affirmations) words. I take a nap when I am tired. I put up boundaries for toxic people. I speak my truth even if it causes discomfort.
What can you do this week because you love yourself?
And lastly, this time of year is great for reflection!
We will chat New Year goals in my next post (I have some fun ideas for that!), but let’s look at THIS YEAR and see how it went. We cannot move forward until we see what we loved (and what we didn’t…)
1) In your journal (or anywhere with space to write!), I want you to think about 4 big wins you had this year. Write them down, and then wirite how they made you feel.
For example, I wrote down travel, lots of family time, some physical accomplishments, and the community I have built with you here and online. All of these made me feel really good inside. Take a minute to look through the pictures in your phone to jumpstart your memory!
I found that having trips to look forward to and experience (I love adventure and travle!); all the amazing quality time w/ my husband and kids (movie nights, beach days, etc); going to CrossFit 5 days a week and doing the Spartan race with friends (I like big fitness goals and challenges!); and finally helping people via my blog, Insta and here is my JAM. This was a really good year for all of this.
2) Now I want you to write about 4 things you wish your could have done better this year, and how it made you feel.
This isn’t the place to beat yourself up, I honestly feel like this list is where we learn the things that we don’t want, and through that we can decide an action plan to fix it. Some things I wrote down…
My work/life balance was not good this year. Because what I do is from home and online, it can feel like I am never done. I compared myself a lot to other people, and felt not enough a lot of the time. I am learning that I want to SERVE more and think about the outcome less. I have an intention to help heal others though my work, and to bring light and joy. This helps with some goal setting for next year!
Another thing I wrote down was that I want to drink and shop less. Both of these (more of the shopping!) are coping mechanism for buffering out my feelings, and aren’t always healthy. Enough is a decision, not an amount! As for drinking, I never drink a lot, but more often that not, I don’t feel my best if I have wine at home or indulge regularly. I have not had much to drink since this past summer and have felt the best ever. I noticed this week with the festivities and having more alcohol around, that I tie a lot of guilt to drinking and it is easier for me to just limit it. I don’t feel good when I drink often or shop just because, so that is a sign to readjust! The key is to be intentional about both.
Okay, whew! I hope this helps you kind or take a deeper dive into what is working in your life, and what could use some reflection.