Can we begin by realizing it is now time to utilize the box of hair dye I have in my bathroom right now? K thx bye;)
I think at this point all of us could come up with an annotated and very detailed list on what has been lost during these really weird quarantine/pandemic times, but I wanted to switch things up a bit! I’ve always been the type to look towards the bright side and to search for the silver linings, it just makes really crappy situations more bearable. I try to teach my kids that we cannot control anything, but we can control our reaction to it. Since we have settled into this new reality for the mean time and the shock has kind of worn off, I wanted to share a few things I’ve noticed that have made a positive impact in our life here.
- Before this all began I used to get really antsy if we didn’t have something to do during the weekend, or feel weird of we didn’t leave the house for more than a day. We’d end up making up errands or filling our time with things just to feel “productive” or to leave the house. I often felt like me kids needed it, too. Turns out, we are all pretty capable of staying in and and rarely leaving. Dare I say, even content? There are obviously times where sitting around feels awful and boredom takes over, but for the most part, we all fill our days up. There is a rythym to our days and they pass, even though not much happens and I rarely know what day it is. We have a homeschool situation happening Monday-Friday, we are watching all the Marvel movies in order at night, and the days seem to ebb and flow.
- This has been a time when all of a sudden, we have excessive TIME to do whatever the hell we want. My daughter has been learning to play her guitar via an app, and is learning how to draw Manga art with some books off of Amazon. My husband has been building model airplanes when he hasn’t had to work, my son plays outside a lot and does puzzles with my husband, and I have been working out at home and reading a ton. There is no excuse of “too busy” or “not enough time,” we can do whatever we want to after basic tasks are done (homeschool is basically done by noon.) I’ve loved being able to read for hours and hours with no interruption, walking the 2 miles route around my neighborhood listening to a podcast, researching face products all afternoon, and just having nowhere to be and no time constraints (other than meal times lol.) It also helps that my kids are 10 and 12 and pretty self sufficient, it would have been a different story if they were much younger!
- Since my gym has been closed I have had to change how I move my body (like most of us!), and to my big surprise, I’ve really loved the chance to take walks daily and to do the BBG program at home again. For almost 3 years I have been doing CrossFit, and while I miss my friends there and can’t wait to see them again before we move, I have loved giving my body a break and doing something I did (and loved) before. It is still as challenging as it was before, and I have learned that I DO have the motivation to work out on my own and I like doing it on my own time. I will most likely continue to work out from home when we move, something I was unsure of before this all began.
- I have been able to do so much with my kids! Since the four of us are home almost all of the time (other than when my husband has been working,) there is TIME for so much. My kids have done a ton of cooking that I helped them with (teaching them how to bake, cook certain dishes, etc.) We watch movies together every night, and while we always did family dinners each night before this, now we add in Facetime dinner dates with our families. We play games, take lots of walks/bike rides, and I have learned how valuable it is that I really like being with my husband a lot and that we both value family time (though admittedly, this is a lot…;)
- I’ve been trying to teach my kids the importance of checking in with friends and loved ones, and that we can do a lot to make someone else’s day. My kids have been writing letters to grandparents, cousins and friends, we Facetime family a lot, and my daughter texts and Facetimes her friends. It is important to show up and to connect right now, and to look at ways to check in with those that may need connection and help.
I feel like I could honestly keep going! There is so much good out there if you look. I know for myself I have to conciously turn away from the news and anything that trigger a lot of fear, so I have been turning inward and doing what is good for us and our family and friends around us. This time can be really scary with a ton of unknowns (I mean, we are currently trying to sell a house and do a military move with so much in the air…) but I do know there is good coming from this, even if it isn’t what most of us would choose.
Tell me, what have you gained during quarantine?