Every single time we have moved (7 times in the past 18 years 🤗) it takes me at least a year to settle in. The key, I have found, is not to expect everything to be the same as it was before you moved. Sure, your furniture and family and so much stays the same, but everything else is so, so different. The more you resist it, and force it to be what you knew before, the harder it is.
Each move I have been forced outside of my comfort zone. Finding a new normal for myself and the kids, is tricky. You honor what you left, but also make room for the new. New schools, sports teams, doctors, gyms, friends, routines, everything. Each time I look back I can see that it does take a full year to feel truly at home in our new town. After a year of firsts and discovering how to drive places and what things to join and who we should hang out with, you settle. You look around and it no longer looks foreign, it just looks like your life.
I read @melissawoodhealth post the other day about making a new set of tracks after change and I loved it. Things change so much (hello 2020 😳) and instead of fighting to keep things the same, why don’t we create a new path? I can see how I have been resisting laying new tracks for myself. Right now, it feels safer to stick with what I know. It feels safer to stay in my lane.
But that’s a lie.
This year especially feels like I have the chance to rebuild and rebirth a new normal, a future and life that fits who I am right now and who I’m becoming. Yet always allowing for change and new tracks to be laid out and followed. Each day is a chance to really look where you are and figure out if it is what you want. Ask, “what do I want?” And then listen.
What new tracks do you want to lay out for yourself?