I was thinking about happiness this week, and all the ways that we search for it and hold out on what we already have. We hold out because we are searching for that THING that will magically transport us into the life we think we want.
This came to me in the shower this morning, I literally hurried through getting dressed because I had to get this down for myself and for you.
I’ll be happy//Things will be perfect when…
My jeans from last year fit again;
I lose this belly roll I’ve gained over quarantine;
I find another fitness community;
I can run 5 miles easily again;
I get 10K followers so I can use the swipe up;
I make enough money to support my husband when he retires in 2 years;
I can send the kids to school again full time;
I can travel again;
I buy that Free People sweater that will complete my wardrobe;
I buy the sweatshirt from Urban Outfitter’s;
and the perfect rug for my living room.
I’ll be happier when…
Our home renovation is completely done;
we have a finished basement for the kids;
I’ll share my new kitchen when the backsplash is done and it looks perfect.
I’ll be happier when…
What are you waiting for to be happy? Is it the next sweater, another job, more followers, the next vacation; those last 10 pounds, a new jean size, a new house?
Except we get those things and they don’t make us happy. They don’t make things PERFECT, they just become one more thing to have and more things get added on to want.
I’ve always loved the phrase, “enough is a decision, not an amount.”
When do we decide that happiness is never in the trip, the pants size, the finished house, the money? It’s a daily decison that we make that THIS is enough right now. This moment.I can appreciate what is and want more for myself and my family, but true happiness is appreciating what is, right now. Loving what is.
You don’t have to love everything in your life or settle, but often enough we need to look around and enjoy the things we can as they are. Appreciate the life you have because I bet you that the life you have right now is someone else’s dream, or even YOUR dream from 10 years ago. Are you enyoying it, or are you wishing it away because you think better is out there?
Are you looking around and really seeing your life as is? Sometimes I sit and reallylook at my kids when they are watching tv. I see the curves of their cheeks and their precious faces and hands and bodies and I know, I KNOW, in 10 years I wil wish I could be where I am right now.
Where are you doing this? We can both strive for more and enjoy what is.Can you see, really see, the good things you have?It’s funny, I notice all the time that the things I lusted after and got (mostly clothes) only brought me happiness for a short time. The same goes for a pants size, a certain car, the house. It is all amazing and wonderful, but we get these things and feel it for a second and move on.
Maybe the key to life is in the moments.Knowing we will never find happiness in the things and jobs and money and weight, it is all an inside job. (It’s taken me nearly 40 years to figure it out.)
I have strived so long to reach PERFECTION in so many areas of life only to find that there is no end point, but a need for me to feel whole and loved within myself. What I’ve really longed for has been inside me. I create my happiness. I decide when enough is enough. I decide to be happy and grateful for what is and what I have, and find purpose with unfinished things.
We don’t get to a point where we can set down our things and say, “I made it, I can stop now.” None of know the endpoint, so why not put down the baggage now and find ways to enjoy what we have, in this moment.
What are ten things you can be grateful for?