Hey there, happy Monday!
We have had a happy weekend celebrating my hubsand and I’s 16th wedding anniversary. We went apple picking with the kids and ordered a Hawaiian themed cake (we went to Hawaii last year for our anniversary!) and just hanging with the kids and watching movies. Life is good, content, and happy right now. I’m very grateful.
Let’s get into the 3 things I have thought about this week and journaled, I hope they connect with you as they did me;)
1) Anxiety is often the rapid spinning of our brains, an inability to stop the inner madness and thoughts of doom. Sometimes it is always thinking about the worst case scenario (husband is late, did he get in a car crash?) or flight/fight (I’m scared so I am going to lash out, or retreat into my inner world.) I heard recently that healing means learning to processthese anxious thoughts in a healthy way. Learning to slow down the rapid thinking and see what we really need to see. Asking, “is this true?” when a thought that pops up makes us anxious. So much can be helped by just asking this in an anxious situation. Also, taking a deep breathe and asking WHY you are thinking this and when was your earliest memory of feeling this way? Most likely, what you are feeling now isn’t even about what you think it is, but about inner childhood conditioning.
Another way is to write out the worst case scenarios you often envision, and then realizing that you could survive it (even if you don’t want to know how.) I have to be careful with this as it can spin out of control for me, but it works well for my very analytical husband.
2) “Anything that us new, even if it is good, will feel uncomfortable until it is familiar.”
I have to remind myself of this a lot. With many moves in many years as a military family, I often forget it takes a year of more to feel comfotable in my new environment, even if I love where I live. Our brains are wired to resist newness and change, it is a survival instinct. Even now, living in this gorgeous house we remodeled and in a place we dreamed of moving, I feel uncomfortable A LOT. So much is different, and even though I am really happy it still takes time to adjust to a new normal. I would say, with this year especially, all of us are adjusting to something. It is okay and normal to feel uncomfortable. I do know this, things do tend to work out, hence my favorite affirmation,
“Everything is always working out for me.”
3) A question I wrote down while journaling the other day was,
“What’s my strategy when feeling powerless?”
I know right now things seem crazy “out there.” The elections, COVID, life, it is all sometimes too much. I watched “The Social Dilemma” with my daughter the other day and it left me feeling pretty hopeless in a lot of ways. I hate that feeling, as I think we all do. SO then what? I like to have a list of things that really fill me up and renew my hope. Here are some of mine…
Take a walk (my favorite! I either listen to a podcast or call a friend and walk)
Watch a feel good movie with my kids (we watched Hocus Pocus the other night!)
Read a book (I’m really into biography’s right now, the library is my happy place)
Spend alone time with my husband;)
Stay off of social media and any news sites and focus on what is in front of me (my kids and husband and friends) How can I serve and encourage them?
Can you come up with a list? I find that coming up with this list before you feel hopeless is KEY. This is a time for caring for yourself first so you can care for others.Give yourself oxygen so you can do that for others;)