Last week a really good week over here. My kids went back to school for 2 days (we have a hybrid shedule for now) and I am so happy for them. They needed more social interaction and I needed some time to be home alone lol. It’s a win/win! I got to hit up Hobby Lobby for the first time since March and I bought some cute pictures for my office. I restrained myself from buying Xmas decor, I love decorating for Xmas and will probably start mid Novemeber getting the house all set up.
I also listened to some really good podcasts, read some good books, and took a ton of notes in my journal. As always, here are 3 things I learned/thought about that I wanted to share with you.
1) Show up for yourself!If you are like me and have a ton going on, you may struggle with showing up for yourself, but it is so, SO imporatnt. We have to fill ourselves up before we can help others. I shop up for myself by:
Waking up an hour before my kids and reading/journaling/visualizing/meditating. I can feel it the days I don’t do this, so even though setting the alarm is painful, I do it for me. I show up for myself.
I also read as much as possible, my favorite past time. I read self help, romance, and right now, a ton of biographies of interesting women in history. I bring my books to soccer practice, I read after dinner on the couch, and as much as possible. Even on my busiest days I find 10 minutes to read. I show up for myself.
2) What are you being triggered by on a daily basis/regularly?Being triggered is basically getting upset over stuff that may or may not be a big deal and it blows up in your head. I get triggered by fitness stuff on Instagram, any type of violent headline in the news, or even simple stuff my husband might say that brings me back to something else. The reason I bring this up is, what we are being triggered by is your daily work.We need to look deeper at what is bothering us and WHY. Think about the last things that triggered intense feelings in you, then come up wtih a word that describes that feeling. Now ask yourself, when was earliest memory you have of feeling that feeling? Why did you feel that way? What did you need in that moment that you didn’t have? Most of the stuff that bothers us now has nothing to do with today and everything to do with trauma from long ago. Trauma is anything that affected you in a negative way, even slight. You might be surprised by what you are still holding on to. Nine times out of ten I find that when I am annoyed/arguing with my husband it has nothing to do wtih him and more to do with stuff I have issues with that I bring into current situations.
3) Be your own healer and nurturer. Something that has taken me YEARS to figure out is that I am my own hero. My own healer. It isn’t anyone else’s job to make me feel loved.It is an inside job. What love did you need as a kid that you didn’t have? (We aren’t knocking our parents, everyone does what they know and I believe we are given our lives to learn and grow.) How can you give that love to yourself NOW?Yes, you! I work on giving myself attention and loving all parts of me, even the stuff I think is “bad.” I envision myself as a little girl and I then envison me as her mom, loving on her. You deserve the love you are seeking, because you can give it what you know it needs.