Other people’s opinion of you doesn’t have to be your reality. Read that again!
How many times in your life have you been labeled something that defined you at some point? I’ve been labeled:
Cold as ice (unemotional)
Too skinny/Too big
And more. I’ve been labelled, and believed, all of these at some point. I held myself back from experiences because I believed I WAS these things. I’ve worn tee shirts in a pool in 8th grade because my body grew bigger and faster than I wanted, I’ve failed at sports because I believed I couldn’t do what the other girls could do, I’ve failed classes because I thought I was too dumb to do well.
It’s taken me years to build up a new version of myself (or really, do dig deep and find it!), and to strip away what I was told and who I thought I was. I learned through experience that I can do and be anything that I believed I could do, as long as I blocked out the version of myself that wasn’t me. The version that I became to protect myself, or was a defense mechanism, or because of anxiety.
It’s about finding out who you are, authentically, underneath the labels that the world and the people around us have given us. We can outgrow past versions of ourselves. In fact, that’s the point. You should be able to look back at past versions of you and not recognize that person, because growth and change is constant. Nothing in this world is stagnant. You aren’t a sum of other people’s opinions! Your brain and what you think is more powerful than you think, it’s up to you to choose who you listen to.
What are some labels you have believed in the past that you no longer do?