How was your weekend? Ours was great, full of dinners with friends and weekend soccer games (and some pumpkin carving!) The typical! We do a lot of the same things week in and week out and I am ok with it. Sometimes I think life can be a lot for us just living/surviving through regular life to get to the big stuff (trips, holidays, etc.) But life IS the mundane stuff, the day to day stuff. Do you have joy in daily life? Do you wake up excited for the small things? Simple joys? I have been working on setting an intention for my day at the beginning, and a lot of the time the word is ENJOY, EASE, or JOY. Simple words that make me slow down, take a breathe, and look around. What small pieces of joy can you build in to your day?
On to 3 things to think about this week! These are things I write down in my journal each morning and some ideas come from podcasts, some from books, and others just from my rambling thoughts.
1) I was listening to Brooke Castillo’s Life School podcast and she talked about desire. Our job is to sift through false desire, or desire that comes from lack, into desire from what you REALLY want.
The trick is this, false desire comes from suffering/from EGO. If you choose it, you will feel worse afterwards. False desire creates buffering, or activities that harm us rather than fuel us. Buffering can be drinkng, drugs, too much social media and using it to numb out, over-eating, shopping, basically something that you THINK you like, but makes you feel yucky after. Ask yourself, If I do this, will I feel like I wil be MORE after?
To turn away from false desires is to be uncomfortable. It is uncomfortable to say no to the things you have used for comfort in the past. But what happens when you say no, when you sit with the uncomfortable feelings? You find what you are really desiring in life.
True desire pops up.
What are you truly desiring? More face to face friends? Time to write that book you’ve always wanted to write, more family time? When you take away false desires you get to the root of what you really want. Remember, you need to be uncomfortable in order to grow.
2) Another podcast I listened to in the car on the way to Hobby Lobby last week, was The Goal Digger podcast, her 400th episode. In it, she talked about legacy. What are you bringing to the world? I think about this a lot, with this blog and what I do on social media, and also what I do at home with my family when no one is watching.
What does success look like for you? Is success money and validation, or is it simple joy in everyday life? Are you trying to make an impact in the world? For those in your own home? Success and legacy looks very, very different for each of us, and learning what YOU define it as is everything. If something happened to you tomorrow, would you be pleased with how you left the world? It’s morbid, I know, but I think a lot of how my children and those around me will feel after having me in their lives, and I hope it is a legacy of love and connection.
3) “The less you resist unhappiness, the happier you will be.”
I wrote that down earlier in the week because it really made me think. I know that I, and a lot of others, try to avoid unhappiness and sadness at all costs. Except that is impossible! Life is about 50/50, equally joyful and unhappy.The quicker you embrace this, the easier things will be for you.
Resistance to the flow of life causes so much pain. You can try to stop a running river, but at some point it will burst out somewhere. Life is constant movement and constant evolution. I’ve spent a great portion of my life resisting emotions and trying to keep everyone happy all the time, including me.The problem is, this is impossible. If you resist sadness and anger and uncomfortable feelings, they will go deeper and deeper and take root. At some point they will explode, through disease, anxiety, etc.
Try this, the next time you feel really sad or angry or whatever, try to name the emotion. Figure out where in the body you feel it the most. Take a breathe and sit with it. Maybe take a walk or aggressively punch a pillow, but don’t avoid it or sugarcoat it. I promise you, it will pass. Not right away, but if you acknowledge it and honor it and don’t fight it, it will flow away.
That’s it for now! I hope you guys have an AMAZING week, and as always, comment and let me know if any of this resonated with you. I LOVE recieving your emails, comments and messages!