I hope everyone had a great Halloween, either with kids or without, at home or out trick or treating. I am happy it is November, because to me, this is Christmas season! I decorate early, usually around the middle of November. I love holiday decor and music and Hallmark Christmas movies! It just makes me happy. A couple of years ago I decided to just go with it and decorate when I want versus what most traditions say. Letting go of what doesn’t serve me and honoring things that do is so good for my heart and soul.
Do you decorate early, or do you wait until after Thanksgiving?
Let’s keep this relatively short and sweet this week and chat about 3 things to think about this week! This is right out of my journal, some is stuff I hear and some is stuff right from my heart. I love my morning ritual, about an hour before the kids wake up where I sit and read and journal and meditate. It feeds my soul. Thank you for letting me bare my soul here each week, I truly love writing this and sharing my thoughts with you!
1)I find myself trying to “fix” other people and trying to solve problems a lot. I love helping and giving advice, but often enough I can go to far and just give advice without really listening. I wrote this down in my journal the other day…
Let go of control. Stop trying to fix people and and situations. Put on your own oxygen mask first.
I’ve been working on this. A lot of who I am has been a mediator in different roles in my life, trying to hard to make other people happy. To constantly explain myself or work to have people see what is going on in their lives. (Which is impossible, by the way.) And then I neglect myself or I am disapointed in the results. I am working on letting this go. Giving advice if asked, but not rushing towards it. Letting people be who they are and focusing on my own growth and development.
2) What are you chasing right now? For years I have chased perfection through my body and how I am viewed by the world, etc. I have exhausted myself chasing after these things, and none of them have brought me pure joy. I never actually get THERE. It has been through the act of stopping, of switching up my mindset that I have seen the most happiness. I ask myself, how can I just show up? Can I respect my body for what it has done versus how it looks? What if I stop chasing the next diet, the next exercise program, and just do what makes me happy? What do I really want right now?
I’ve worked tirelessly for many years to achieve perfection, or what society deems perfect. I have chased what I am SUPPOSED to be, got there, and then found it didn’t serve me. I try to wake up with the intention now to just think about how I want to FEEL versus everything else. And a lot of that is honoring what is. I want to feel JOY, EASE. FLOW, CREATIVITY, and LOVE.
3) I read Jessica Simpson’s book last week and found a lot of what she went through paralleled my own story, and probably a lot of us. What struck me the most was how fake her and Nick’s “Newlywed’s” show was. I knew these shows distorted reality, but I didn’t know HOW MUCH. I watched that show as a newly married woman and I loved them as a couple. But it was completely fake, you guys. Made up. Fabricated.
How much of what we admire out there in the world is not even real?Are we looking up to people who don’t even have what they are showing us? Social media is like this, too. So much of what we see is distorted and meant to show perfection, the girl in the photo rarely even looks like the girl the photo. I try my best to show this in my videos and posts, but you also see what I am willing to show you (which is a lot, lol.) Anyway, it gives you a lot to think about. What are we admiring and wishing we had is just smoke and mirrors?