I am cozied up in my office right now with Christmas Classics playing and it is very, very cozy. We have plans later to do a Secret Santa with our friends, and a yummy dinner, and I am looking forward to it! These are the same two families we see every weekend and we are basically a POD now and I am loving it. It gives us something to look forward to each weekend.
I have been finishing up my book this week as well. I set a goal to write it in 3 months with a set daily word count and it is set to be done (the 1st draft) on Decemebr 29th. It is a memoir/self help book and it has been a journey writing it. If you like this newsletter, and my blog, you will like this book;) After I am done I plan on querying literary agents and getting it published. I’ll take any good vibes you want to send me on that!
I have also been painting a ton and having a blast with that. Lots of flowers, animals, and affirmation type art so far. I also like doing watercoler prints of homes and I’m thinking of adding that as a custom thing I can do. I am going to set up an Etsy shop after the hoildays and sell prints and custom work. But, I need your help on a name for my shop! Any suggestions?! Should I use my name, as that is what I use on social media and my blog, or do something different? Please comment if you have an suggestions…
Okay, let’s get on with 3 things to think about this week!
1) I listened to a podcast about having an abundance mindset and something she said really resonated with me…
“There is always more where that came from.”
How many times do we think about life in terms of not being enough? From money to time to a zillion other things? I often have to peptalk msyelf when I feel like I am getting anxious about something. Right now, time seems scarce, like I won’t get things done, but I always do. When I feel like I am getting anxious about time I try to say…
“There is always enough time to get things done.”
“I have plenty of time. I am okay”
Then I take a deep breath and start my task. Something about just taking the moment to center myself and reassure myself that no matter how much I worry, I always get things done. Where can you switch from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset? What area do you need it in most?
Another thing I like to do when I worry about money, is to imagine 10x the amount that I spent going back into my account, and saying thank you in my head. Just a small trick to inspire more abundance.
2) One thing that I like to remind myself of often is that my happiness is worth a lot. When I am happy, everyone else in my home is happier. What makes me happy? Creating, writing, reading, family dinner each night and movies after on the couch. Simple things, but often life will tell you that other things are more important. I have always been really good at saying no to things that steal my time and don’t honor me. My family and time to create and rest are important to my mental health, and I guard that time. How can you make time for your happiness?
My children desreve to have a happy mom, more than they deserve to have one that is rundown and stressed.I think the biggest gift we can give our loved ones is to be happy, and we are the only ones that can do it.I love my family, but they aren’t in charge of my happiness, I am. How can you be more proactive about your own happiness? What is in your control?
3) Building self worth and confidence comes down to making little choices daily.What can you give yourself credit for doing? DId you smile at a stranger and compliment their earrings? Did you offer to help someone put a way a cart in the grocery store parking lot that was struggling?
What choices have you made to honor yourself?I build my self worth by setting small goals for myself and staying consistent. That means moving my body and watching my limiting self talk and doing my daily word count. It means I work on how I talk to myself and talk to a therapist and heal some of the wounds inside of me. I am building my self worth by changing how I view myself, which means less focus on how I look and more focus on what I can do and feel. I build my self worth by loving myself the way I always wish others would. I honor my needs and love myself by caring for my mental and physical body. I put the oxygen mask on myself before helping others. Only I can be who I need to be, it is no one else’s job love me in a special way or bring me happiness. That’s on me.I have always loved the thought that the only job for the people in our life is to be here for us to love. That’s it. It isn’t anyone esle’s job in my life to bring me happiness and joy, that is up to me. All I can do is fiercely love myself, and everyone else in my life for exactly who they are. How can you love yourself more?