Oh, kids. It’s hard raising them, right? The questions alone! Every behavior and problem has a zillion solutions and there is no way of knowing which one to choose. Not one book says, “do it this way and all will be fine.” Trust me, I’ve looked.
I’m a big fan of finding books that will help solve my problems. Self help books are my best friend. I mean, who doesn’t want to improve themselves in some way? I am a hugely flawed person who strives to become better. I could fill a book with all the stupid stuff I’ve done in the past (and still do), but we’ll save that for another ay, shall we?
Lately I have been having trouble with my three year old. You see, he’s three. That may sound like I am repeating myself, but this age is a tough one. Anyone out there going through a “case of the three’s?” Besides the stage where they whine and whine and whine (9-14 months?) this is the worst. They are old enough to know better, but young enough to not care. Brady is smack dab in the middle of this phase and it is not pretty. We jokingly call him stubborn/stupid (not to his face, cool down!) He is so, so stubborn that he won’t back down even when it is necessary. He stupidly makes wrong decisions because he is so stubborn.
Side note: I don’t know where he got his stubbornness from….
Daily we have problems:
1) Following directions. I’ll tell him to go wash his hands, put his shoes on, etc and he will either answer no or do it really slow on purpose.
2)Not talking back. He is big on having the last word lately. Annoying.
3) Bad habits he caught from a friend. This includes answering in what sounds like pig latin when you ask him something.
4) Having to be threatened to do things. See problem above: he doesn’t do what he is told unless I threaten time out/count to three/take a favorite toy. Every time.
5) Refusing to follow us if we are out somewhere. This is so frustrating! He stays behind and won’t come with us until we walk back and either threaten him with a consequence or leave.
Now, all of these problems are solveable with a little tough love/consistency. A great book I downloaded quick when we first started having problems (he ran out of a restaurant and into a parking lot) helps me a lot. We go through phases, depending on how busy life gets, of good/bad behavior. Usually the busier I am the worse the behavior. My kids crave routine and sameness. When it gets bad (like it is now) I have to buckle down, stay at home more and implement my behavior plan until it is straightened out.
Tell me, what do you do when your kids go through tough phases?