I’ve been a stay at home mom for almost ten years now (which sounds crazy!), and one of the weirdest thing about it is trying to justify my time and what I do all day. When my kids were babies and home full-time it was easy, but now that they are both in school full-time, it gets a bit harder. It can seem, indulgent maybe (?), to be able to stay home and care for a family that isn’t home with you the majority of the time. The truth is, I feel guilty sometimes because I technically have more time in my day to do things than others do. My main “job” is taking care of the kids and the house, but I also support us with my shampoo business, as well as bringing in minimal income with this blog.
My husband is in the military and we move often, so a lot of the time working in the field I’m educated in (teaching elementary ed as a reading specialist), is harder, as I have to be recertified in certain states. PLUS, I’m not even sure I WANT to teach anymore (which is another post for another time…) He also is away often, so me being home is the best answer for us now. I am the front line for the kids, and can be there for them in a second, which I love. What it comes down to is, my priority at this time is to be home for my kids and be available. This may change as they get older, but right now I don’t want to work outside the home as we go through the changes of moving. I also am trying to figure out “what I want to be when I grow up” (ha!), and it seems working from home/being and entrepeneur is where my heart is leading me.
But I digress.
Every night my husband asks me what I did that day (in a conversational way, no weird judgement), and often I have to think. I mean, my big answer can seem minute (the gym, errands, cleaning, etc), but the reality it, I did a ton. After a phone call with my sister-in-law, she texted me this list of a day as a stay at home mom:
Get myself up
Get the kids up
Get them off to school
Make our own food
Pick up things
Prep for dinner
Pick up kids
Sort through their paperwork and sign all the things
Bring them to sports
Help with homework
Help them with bedtime
Tuck them in.
Some of these things take less time than others, but it is often funny how a lot of little activities add up to a whole day of busyness. This doesn’t even include the time worrying over them, snuggling with them, planning things for them, or any of the real housework. I also didn’t add in this blog or my Monat work, I fit that in as needed. I’m not the type to prove that I am busy (because I also have time to take a nap if I want to or go browse Target), but I guess in the end this list is for myself. To know deep inside that I have value as a stay at home mom. I may not work outside the home as I have in the past, but I bring value to my children and husband and I am so happy to do so.
I really love that I have the choice to do this. It is a huge privilege to say “I want to stay at home for my kids” and be able to do it. We planned this out long before they arrived and we both work hard to make it work logistically and financially. I know at some point I will go back to work in some way, but for now, now I’m MOM and WIFE and SHAMPOO SELLER and BLOGGER and that is enough.