Last year I made very specific health, business, and life goals for 2017. I’ve got to say, in the past (um, forever?), I have been huge on setting really specific goals. And luckily, I tend to reach them, but when I don’t, or they get derailed even a little bit, I feel like a failure. I have a major theme of perfectionism I have been working on the past couple of months, and I think having these really specific goals has led me wrong. I obviously love to dream big and I absolutely DO have big things I am working on, but instead of coming up with things I have to DO, I want to figure out how I want to FEEL when do all of the things. Does that make sense?
In no particular order, this is how I want to FEEL in 2018:
I want to feel excitement. I love to travel, and planning trips and going on trips is something I get excited about the most. We already have a couple in mind this year, and I love having that to look forward to! Daily life can get really routine (which I thrive on), but after a while I need to shake that up, and quick trips are where it is at.
I want to feel joy in my daily life. This can come in many ways. A lot of this is letting go of expectations and fully embracing the moment. It means letting go of “should’s”, and really living each moment as it comes without worrying about the past or the future. (I am learning to fine art of letting go, which has transformed a lot for me…) I have found that joy for me comes from many different areas, but it includes working out, reading, writing, taking naps when I can, journal writing and meditating in the morning, and really caring for my inner self. It also comes from my work here on this blog, with my live videos on Facebook, and some future plans I am working on currently. Finding my purpose and living it is a huge part of my life, and for the most part, I am already living it.
I want to feel connected to those around me. A lot of this is inner work. I’ve been working really hard to let go of a lot of things and live in the moment right now. I’ve found that most of the issues I have had with others are really issues I have with myself. Honestly? To feel connected to others I have to feel connected to myself, and that is where meditation comes in, and my daily self work. If I don’t do it, I don’t feel aligned and connected to myself, or others. It’s a daily, life long process, and I have seen a world of difference in all the relationships in my life because of this work.
I want to feel absolute love for myself, and others. Even the people who have hurt me and created chaos and anger. I have found that my self-esteem was something I had to work on the most this year. I reached a point of happiness with my outer self, but not as much inside. I do a TON of positive affirmations and I work to never criticize myself (seriously, listen to yourself talk to yourself sometime, it’s shocking.) I want to accept all that I am and just be a shining light of love to others, and it starts for me modeling this to my kids. This means being less concerned with micromanaging what I eat and exact goals on how I should look, and more concerned with how I feel. It is a big step (what women isn’t obsessed with all things external?), and I am working on it.
….though I absolutely believe in the power of a good outfit and fun makeup and all that external goodness. If it makes you feel good inside to do something outside, go for it!
That’s it! I’m letting go and surrendering a lot this year and going with the flow. Turns out, if you control stuff and hyper analyze everything it doesn’t really help ANYTHING. Go figure. So I’m going with the flow and looking out for how I want to feel. How about YOU…how do you want to feel in 2018?
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