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I’ve been thinking of this new format for these newsletters I send out, where I take 3 things I either learned via podcasts, or what I have journaled about, and share with you! These are basically small bites to read and ponder and see if they can be incorporated into your thought patterns or routine.
Hit reply and let me know after is this is valuable to you!
Okay, let’s dig in!
1) A lot of growing as a human and becoming who we are meant to be is about busting through a lot of stuff we hold in our subconcious from childhood. The crazy thing is, this runs our life, but most of us aren’t even aware that it is there! Take this simple exerceise…
If I did this (insert action in childhood), then (insert this bad thing happened.)
The trick is you need to go deep here. For example, maybe you learned at a young age that if you wore black as a kid and didn’t like pink, then you were a goth, tomboy weird person. So you go crazy trying to look feminine all the time. Or that if you cried too much you parents told you that you were a baby. So you never cry now and feel only weak people are emotional. These are random examples, but they show how we gradually change who we are as people to become something that is less painful. Its subconcious and we rarely even know that it is happening.
I’m not saying parents are evil, but we can only do what we know, and sometimes the intention is there, but it comes across as damning or judgemental. We learn, often on a subconcious level, that what we are is bad and we change to become loved and accepted. Think of any area of your life that you struggle with and I promise we can find an insance where you have a block from childhood about it. If you need help figuring it out, again, just hit rely and we can have a convo about it.
2) Where are you settling in life? A lot of us grab the first okay thing that comes along because we fear it will go away (relationship, job, home, etc), so we settle for less than what we deserve. I have done this so many times in life, I find it more in jobs I’ve taken and in my career to be honest. You want to be basically unavailable for what is not worthy of you.These oportunities are like tests from the universe, they are asking, does she feel worthy as is? There is no pass/fail here, but the more we settle the more we will get tests that ask us if we really feel we are worthy of our dreams. Where are you settling? Can you look back and see more clearly what you settled for, versus waiting (which is hard and uncomfortable) for something more worthy of you?
3) After a week (year?) of craziness with the election, debates, and COVID, I know my anxiety about the world and feeling like things are falling apart is really high. Something that I heard the other day really helped me with this. Instead of sitting and worrying and going online and getting more stress, ask,
Who can I serve?
Who can I encourage?
Start in your own home and radiate outward. We aren’t going to accomplish saving everyone and stressing out, but we can use our energy for good.How can you serve those around you? Little things, like making your kids pancakes before school, or doing something small for the people in your life with no thought of reciprocation. How can you encourage someone around you? Compliment freely, smile, do something nice for your kids’ online teachers. We have the power to bring joy to this workd and it starts now.
Gosh, I hope you liked this! I am always thinking of you guys and how I can serve you throughout the week, thank you for being here and trusting me with your email.